With her flu and her mood being cranky, I was also cranky. Thank god for Cw. He is really the man! Like seriously, he can be lazy, but when I holler, he'll be like "Okay, fine" and feed the baby.
So, I was reading a certain blogger's blog and there was a statement whereby she said "Yea, I paid for the PD visits in TMC, so I don't need certain remarks." Which got me thinking, does Singaporeans think that when a guy pays for a family is wrong, a girl should do her part too? Then I must be condemned by all you guys. When I was preggy, EVERYTHING was paid by Cw. My insurance, his insurance, the hospital bills. Oh wait, I paid the maternity package, my delivery suite and the 2 bed-room. I was in so much pain that I just gave the nurse my VISA and told her "If I were to die, get Cw up now" I know, being drama. But the pain - EXCRUCIATING. I even tolerated 6hours of contractions without epidural. But lets not go there. So I don't think much of the hospital was paid by him.
Leia's milk powder, wet wipes was paid by him. We didn't buy nappies as it was sponsored. What else? Her cot, her diaper bag, my post-natal massage. So yes, I bet all girls will be like "SCREW YOU MATERIALISTIC WOMAN!!" Number 1, I'm quite appalled by the fact that when guys pays for a woman, it seems....Not okay. Like if Cw were to pay for my cash card that's not okay, and I dunno why its not okay. But that's an example, he DIDN'T and would never pay for my cash card. My next question - Is it wrong for a husband to pay for his wife's trip too? Its weird but I get remarks like "You should pay for yourself!!"
To clarify, we are going to the UK next year and its being paid by me. So why are there no remarks like "He should pay for himself?" Why are there no remarks like "Why isn't he paying for your car?" and better still, no remarks like "Why are you paying for the interior designing ALONE for our future house. Isn't that a shared thing?" So yes, now you guys know what I'm paying for. Odd isn't it, how a wife is somewhat condemned by lots of people when my MARRIED HUSBAND is paying for me. Just so you know, Cw and I are legally married so I'm not having an affair in case people are wondering if I'm being "supported". Oh god, lets not go there too, cause it irks me to cheat on him.
But yea, its so odd. Now it makes me wonder, WHY AM I PAYING FOR THE BELFAST TRIP? :| But I want to. Cw hasn't been to much of the world. I'm NOT saying I'm well-traveled. I don't think I am. But there are certain places I want to go (odd and distant places even), that I want him to be with me. So if he feels that the US of A or the UK is too "rich" for him, I'll gladly pay. I bet he don't even know that London is a capital of England. Does he? You know, just the other day, I told him if only we could see Kyoto. He went "WHAT?" And I told him its geisha land. How do I know? I was reading the last samurai the other day and my Japanese teacher - Imanaka-san did tell us that geisha's were originated from Kyoto. But its abit far from Tokyo and Cw weren't keen about it. But I'll gladly pay even just to take the train down from Kyoto.
Why am I writing this entry? I don't know. I guess most people judge. Okay, correction EVERYONE judges. Don't tell me you don't, because I bet even if you're not judging me, you guys have some say in certain people. And that's judgmental already. I've learnt to leave criticism as it is, like when my mum started saying stuff, I told myself "FOCUS ON LEIA. FOCUS!" And nothing came out from me, only my sisters were like fending her off. So I've grown up I guess. And I know a certain someone (Let's call her S) still thinks I'm sponging off my husband and telling the whole company about it. But she's 21, and I pick on people my own age, so she doesn't know that I know, but I don't make it known. No point my ladies, no point. I have other things to focus on and not some xiao mei mei (if I may put it). But because of the remarks this certain blogger had to face, really made me wonder how some readers just feel that the girl is lousy etc if her husband pays everything.
How I take it? I don't care if you're condemning me. S has been doing for the past 1.5 yrs now, but I'm not doing anything to her. I mean, I don't need to stoop to her level. Be the bigger person. And yes, if you ask me, I think it's okay for the husband to pay for the wife. Just not everything. Mind you, when I was pregnant and not working, I paid for the package (which is like $890) + the delivery suite ($2000+) and the 2 days stay. So you see, I didn't let my husband suffer. And he gets the nicest present! Hmmmph!! I don't even own a Hermes but he does. :( HAHA!!
I treat my husband gooooood don't I? A bit of a self-praise. Right now, I'm dreaming about Belfast. I hope Belfast will work really well next year for the Yap's. UK, here we come! :)
Very random - Why do I feel I have carrot legs now? Like they just grew wider. :| Makes me feel pudgy.
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