So its Valentine's day today, and I know everyone who is attached/married/having affairs will be delighted to be spending the day with their special someone. I have a special someone as well - Mr. Yap. And because its very mainstream to be posting my love story on stomp, I'm doing it on my personal space. HAHA!!
We met in June 2012 in a KTV pub (Yes, never a nice place to meet the other half) and of course, he is NEVER the guy where girls will "go ga-ga"over, not the best looking, always on his phone playing his games and not to mention always the shy type. I'm not sure how and why a group chat just popped up and of course, we started talking. Needless to say, I'm sure you guys know whats going to happen next.
I got pregnant in Jan 2013 (I know, I know, a shotgun marriage and most readers will go "Holy Shit!!") with Leia. The WORST pregnancy ever. Morning sickness took a toil on my body. I was puking still in Trimester 2. PD's said that it will subside, but with Leia, it was a special case. Women had this glow about her when she's preggy, I had a dull aura around me. My weight dropped from 43 to 39kg, it picked up around mid of trimester 2 to end of trimester 3. My full term birth weight was 54kg with a 2.5kg of baby within me. I couldn't work, quit my job and with almost everyone saying I'm dumb, stupid etc (I know some of hus friends said the same thing, but of course with good intentions as they were worried for their friend), Mr. Yap still stuck by my side.
He paid everything - Bills from the private hospital, my insurance, Leia's insurance, her milk powder and my living. So yes, it must have cost him thousands, (Just the hospital bill cost $12,000 at least) but he still did it without a single complaint. Most hus would or might have ditched me, but mine didn't. :)
During labour, he kept telling me to push Leia out. I guess he was quite excited to see the baby. When Leia had to go into ICU for a couple of hours, he refused to budge and waited in the delivery suite with me till PD had good news for us. A responsible daddy indeed yea?
Of course, our marriage wasn't those cinderella tales whereby the princess meets her prince and yada yada. We fought like crazy, slept in separate rooms, he cried, I cried, we hated each other and the list can go on. We could even go sexless for months (Which isn't healthy for a married couple).
My marriage now? I would say LOADS better. When I was down with my cough for that 1 week, I quarantined myself away from the Yap's as I didn't want both hus and Leia down with the sick bug. So night feeding was solely done by hus himself, which to be honest, made me smile both inside and outside. Just the sight of the two of them makes me melt. Good father-daughter bonding even.
To sum it up - I'm extremely happy now (Yes, we still have that odd bickering) but life did change about through every fight. I would say that when we have our disagreements, things would get better as we would still try our best to compromise each other. To be honest, arguing takes this marriage to another level. I'm not sure how to explain this, but it does. So yes, this Valentine's day, I'm dedicating this post to my dearest (and sometimes hateful) hus - Mr. Yap. I love you dear dear, even though we are pissing each other off, but we are still in this marriage and haven't even use the D word. Proud eh? =D
Peektures of the Yap Family on the lunar new year:
Leia and I:
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY MR YAP AND LEIA. Mummy loves you like crazy. :)